Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom (Gen. George Patton)
Thinking back on my career, I see 5 turning points, i.e. mistakes:
- blabbing when I should have kept my mouth shut (my most common)
- being disrespectful to a boss
- not admitting when I was wrong
As I suffered the consequences of my actions (getting fired or pulled off a big project); I berated myself. What helped me was…
- talking about it to someone I trusted
- telling myself that I am human
- examining why I behaved that way (what was in it for me)
This last step is where I learned the most. When I would act against my own best interest, there was usually something to justify it. “He deserved to be taken down a peg.” “They don’t admit their mistakes, why should I?”
My self-defeating behavior stemmed from insecurity and a lack of self understanding.
Success depends on learning from mistakes. Mistakes are good. They wear down our sharp edges. I can look in the mirror and smile. Make friends with your mistakes.
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Carl HoffmanApril 16, 2015
Just last week I did something I felt so right about and it turned out to be a totally wrong approach. I addressed the haters and deleted the video only to post a new one tonight on basically the same subject complete with a good share of humility. Time will tell if I have been redeemed.
DeborahApril 17, 2015
Look at you, learning every step of the way. My hat is off to you. Live to learn and learn to live (someone famous must have said that).