In the article, “10 Navy Seal Life Lessons You Can Use Everyday,” Navy Seal Admiral W. H. McRaven shows us how to train like a seal. One of the 10 lessons is to “confront your daily shark.” Wow, really. I don’t want to. That’s why it’s a shark; it’s big, dangerous, mysterious, overwhelming.
In truth, some sharks are overwhelming. But many sharks are sharks – only to us. To others they are simply bosses, bullies, relatives – whoever intimidates and makes us feel smaller than we are.
I can’t tell you what you to do, but I can tell you what I did. I went through a bad, awful, terrible divorce. Specifics aside, I can tell you there were many times when I felt I couldn’t keep going. I wanted to give up and give in. I had grownup with alcoholic parents, was always taking care of other people (mom, little brother, chronically ill older sister) and I had a poor sense of myself as a strong, confident person. So when this ‘challenge’ arose in my life, I was more than shaken to my (already shaky) core.
Here’s what I did:
1) Got a physical and communicated regularly with my doctor
2) Exercised regularly
3) Talked and talked and talked.. thank you to everyone who listened
4) Tried to have fun whenever I could (I wasn’t great at this to begin with and … still not good at it)
5) Worked to change the “tapes” playing in my head that told me, I couldn’t, shouldn’t, wasn’t strong enough, smart enough, etc.
6) I focused on ‘the prize’ – what I wanted as an end result
7) Listened to inspirational (rock n roll songs) like:
Already Gone – Eagles
So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm