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Can I Change?

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Five Steps to A Meaningful Life

Psychologist Carl Rogers gave us some wonderful ways to understand ourselves.Ā  By simply outlining the path to self-understanding, we can begin to unravel the mystery of building a meaningful life.

  • Be open to new experiences
  • Live in the day
  • Trust your gut
  • Be creative and take risks
  • Seek new challenges

When I read this list, I think, hey, I can do those things. But then I stopped and really read the list. I’m pretty open to try new things, but if I’m completely honest with myself… living one day (this day!) at a time, is hard. My mind races with all the things I could have done or what I should be thinking about or doing tomorrow or next week or next year.

Living a life on your own terms is tough. We can debate whether it should be tough or not, but that is irrelevant. I hope we can agree that finding a path for one’s life that deviates from the ‘norm’ is hard work. I’ve experienced people making fun of me or rejecting me because I chose to go my own way. Finding my way requires me to change. The way I think, feel and ultimately, act.

The hardest parts for me are:

  • having enough faith in myself to withstand the ups and downs
  • finding support from others who appreciate the journey

Acceptance of Myself is the Answer

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I’m finished with the arguments with myself about how I’m not good enough.Ā  I accept myself exactly as I am.

I begin each day reminding myself that I have found my way through lots of adventures and will continue to be able to do that. I appreciate myself. Whatever negative feelings I am carrying, IĀ  will remember that feelings do not last. The way I feel right now; I ‘m not going to feel this way forever.

I’d like to show myself as much compassion as I do other people. I promise myself this, every single day. This self compassion is the key to being able to change. I want to change… even if I’m not sure how I should change, I still know that being flexible and accepting of myself are the way forward.

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    Angel
    May 17, 2019

    Thank you for this Debbie! It’s just what I needed rn šŸ’•šŸ™šŸæ

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    Deborah
    May 19, 2019

    I’m so glad. I never know why I write these posts… I just let the spirit move me. I always appreciate when it means something to people and they take the time to tell me. I appreciate that so much. Keep going… we’re in this together. Debbie

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    Maria Vallejo
    May 30, 2019

    I need this blog in my life right now, Debbie! Going through a major and unexpected career transition that side-swiped me and punched me in the gut. Your posts are helping me circle back to myself and find my path from there. Thank you. šŸ’œ

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    Johanna
    June 4, 2019

    This post is really insightful. I am at a turning point in my life where I am trying to work on myself, but also be less judgmental and more accepting of who I am and what I am like. I am trying to change and stay who I am, if that makes sense. I feel like I can use your thoughts to help me continue to grow. Thank you šŸ™‚

  • Deborah
    Deborah
    June 5, 2019

    Hi Johanna, it makes perfect sense to me. I am making changes to myself so I can stay truer to who I am. You must be a wonderful person, well on your way to finding a way to a life well lived. Debbie Machine

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    Deborah
    June 5, 2019

    Go Maria! The side-swipes are the things that help me grow the most. The tricky part for me is to stay calm and know that everything will work out and to focus on the things that I can control and let go of the rest. I’m excited to hear about it as your journey continues. Debbie

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